As Black folk, there are certain witticisms and phrases that connect us in remarkable ways. No matter our generation, these clever one-liners and knowing nods spark collective smiles, giggles and sometimes even bouts of uncontrollable laughter.
Surely, everyone has their own humor, but the chuckles we share carry deeper meaning. It embodies our rich, shared experiences that form a special bond of trust, exclusive to us. People outside our community often don’t understand the nuances of our joy and laughter—and that’s precisely the point.
In reality, it’s one of our superpowers.
In a world that seems to be splitting apart, our inside jokes are more than just mere punchlines. These unique references are providing us with something far more precious: a sense of belonging.
Psychologists say that inside jokes are like cultural shortcuts because they quickly identify who is part of our group, and can create emotional and psychological connections that make us feel seen. The experts also point out that there is genuine science behind these playful and communal phrases, images, and laughter, which explains why they impact us so deeply.
Inside Jokes Trigger the Brain’s Belonging Response
When we laugh at something that only a few people understand, it does more than just make us smile – it helps us feel connected. Social psychologists Baumeister and Leary (1995) say that wanting to belong is a basic human need. We naturally look for connections, and inside jokes send small signals that say, “You’re a part of our group.”
This little moment of recognition activates the reward system in our brain, making us feel socially secure. It’s not only about the joke; it’s about feeling understood.
They Reinforce Inclusion in a Group
A recent article in Psychology Today explains that inside jokes aren’t just fond memories; they actively help shape our identities, stating that “shared laughter builds cohesion.” In workplaces, families and among friends, these jokes act like social glue. They remind us of the experiences we’ve shared – what we’ve faced, endured and celebrated together.
The article also explains why we often make jokes and find joy in stressful situations. Humor helps us cope, providing a unique sense of strength and activism that amplifies Black voices and narratives that can come in the form of a phrase or, as many of us have seen and taken part in recently, a dance that spreads like a secret handshake.
Inside Jokes Boost ‘Psychological Safety’
Humor, especially the more personal kind, doesn’t thrive in unfriendly settings because we don’t typically don’t reveal our vulnerable sides to people we don’t trust.
The article also points out that inside jokes require both a sense of closeness and an element of risk – the possibility that what you find funny might be met with silence or confusion. It’s why groups and friendships filled with inside jokes often foster a sense of “psychological safety”, a term introduced by Amy Edmondson from Harvard.
This term refers to an environment where individuals feel at ease expressing themselves, taking risks and being authentic, as the humor itself is a signal that also says, “You’re safe here.”
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The Final Takeaway
We certainly connect through serious, deep discussions and significant life experiences, but often, the most powerful bonds are formed when we share a laugh. In a world where the effects of systemic racism and inequality can feel overwhelming and divisive, inside jokes are a reminder that we’ve shared experiences together, and we’re reinforcing our sense of belonging, even if just for a brief moment.
And considering all that we’re up against lately, these moments of joy are far from insignificant…they are vital.
